The myth of equality? Does the myth of equality enhance the pain of discrimination?
Because micro aggressions are not really micro- they hurt, so dont bottle it in, get support, tell someone, give yourself compassion, affirm your specialness.
What to do when someone cuts you with the sword in their mouth:
- Tell someone- don’t bottle it in. Most major organisations run ally schemes so that you can find someone who understands and does not judge you to listen.
- Write it out. Journalling helps to put it on paper instead of holding it in.
- Practice compassion mindfulness-
- Do some exercise- whether it is dancing, yoga, walking or jogging- it all helps to mop up the stress hormones.
- Don’t over think it. A common response when we are hurt is to go over and over in our mind- why did this happen? This can lead to the sad/angry feeling sticking more and affect your sleep, sense of peace over a much longer time.
Being treated unjustly, bullying can leave long lasting impact and distressing memories. Microaggressions due to one’s identify, be it race, sexuality, ability or even body size can trigger loss of confidence, depression and/or anxiety.
The science of compassion shows that giving compassion not only benefits and helps to heal discrimination distress but also helps the person giving compassion.
Understanding that discrimination is not personal, is a failing on those discriminating can help to limit the effects. Knowing when you are thriving helps you to notice when things are not going well and to take action early.
“Being other is not a choice and is usually predetermined way before we come to this world. “
What do you think?
What support would you be willing to give as an ally to someone who is struggling with discrimination?